Do we really never learn and still like the same ‘type’ of person who broke our heart?

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  • A study showed that we are likely to look for or date the same “type” of person from our past relationship
  • More than 300 participants said that they tend to go after the same type of person over and over again
  • A report suggested that in order to break the pattern, we have to try to understand our “dating history”

When we experience heartbreak, we vow to ourselves to never be in the same situation again.

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We promise ourselves to never fall in love with the same type of person, who’ve hurt us, again. We vow to never let a repeat happen; believing that we’ve learned our lesson and been a little bit wiser. We vow to ourselves that the next time we get into a relationship, we won’t get hurt again by choosing a different type of person, even if we believe that it is impossible not to get hurt.

But a recent study seems to be challenging these promises as it says otherwise. A nine-year-long research by the University of Toronto bared that we are likely to look for or date the same “type” of person. It’s as if the study is telling us that we never really learn. Don’t we, really?

The researchers assessed the personalities of more than 300 participants, including their current and previous partners. It was then revealed that results showed that they tend to go after the same type of person over and over again.

Now, how can we prevent ourselves from looking for, dating, and falling for the same type of person again? 

A report suggested that maybe it’s time understand our “dating history” by reviewing what had drawn us to those type of persons and try to break the pattern.

Clinical psychologist Lisa Firestone said that “as we come to know our patterns, we can start to make different choices about who we date.”

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She, however, added that this may result to uncomfortable decisions but will probably make us happy.

But come to think of it, while there seems to be nothing wrong with falling for the same type of person again, until you suffer the same heartache over and over, that’s probably the time when we just have to say “I’ve had enough of the likes of you?”